05: The Heart Was Never Meant to Be Armor

I've been waiting two and a half years to tell this story.

In 2022, one of the closest friendships of my life ended during one of the hardest seasons either of us had ever experienced.

For years, I told myself I couldn't talk about the cancer diagnosis that changed everything because so much of the story wasn't mine to tell. 

And that's true... but what happened in my own life because of it all is my story.

This episode is about what happens when someone you love becomes someone you can no longer have in your life… and what your nervous system can decide about relationships, trust, success, love, and being seen after a loss like that.

It's about the walls I built afterward and called "sovereignty"...

It's about learning to be okay with being the villain in someone else's story without making them the villain in mine...

It's about the years I spent unconsciously protecting a friendship that no longer existed, the ways that showed up in my business, and what it actually took for me to open myself back up to friendship, intimacy, proximity, new client relationships, and community again...

And ultimately, it's about realizing that something doesn't have to last forever to have been real.

Some people change us permanently, and we don't have to erase what was beautiful just because the ending hurt.

"Because I knew you, I have been changed for good." - Wicked ❤️

In this episode, I also share the story of the trip to Canada where I finally got to see the proof that all of this work had actually worked… and the rose quartz reflection that brought the entire journey full circle:

"The heart was never meant to become armor in the first place."

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Uncapped Capacity  - If this episode brought up your own walls, upper limits, subconscious patterns, or the places you've been protecting yourself long after the danger has passed, this is where we go deeper. Uncapped Capacity takes you through the nervous system and subconscious work behind the 12 Stages of Healing… including the exact framework I lived through during the years I talk about in this episode.

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Join Uncapped Capacity here. (self-paced or live... your choice. ❤️)

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